18 September 2010 @ 02:20 pm
I'm so good at double posting lately.  
I almost forgot that I wanted to talk about this, the last post is already huge, and frankly you guys are like the best people to turn to.

It's either you or go off topic on rpanoncomm and I'm kind of hoping that y'all have better advice than anon does.

Anyways, it's like this...

Hillary, my roommate if it hasn't been obvious by now, has been dropping hints for a while but I've kind of been brushing them off and ignoring them. Then friday morning happened.

So basically without being too long winded my roommate's fiancée more or less suggested that we should go on a date sometime and she's entirely okay with this idea.

This; however, weirds me out like no other. I mean, I understand open relationships, but from my understanding their relationship isn't anything of the sort. Not to mention I'm just... not attracted to the guy. He's not bad and totally someone that's easy to be friends with, but that's it. Not attracted to her either, just to have my bases covered.

The sad thing is that I'm tempted to go along with this despite having no real desire for such a relationship solely because it'd be nice to get out of the house more and he's great fun to talk with. (Hillary was joking about how we seem to have some bromance potential the other day.)

So, before I do something notoriously stupid again, I figured I'd come talk at all of you in hopes that maybe this time I won't gigantically screw my life up just because 1. I'm entirely too lonely, 2. I tend to jump into things for no reason, 3.... I don't have a three never mind, 4. profit?

So long story short... HALP PLZ I R LIFE DUMB AND DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DOOOOOO. ;A;
 
 
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[identity profile] carameltrap.livejournal.com on September 18th, 2010 03:11 pm (UTC)
If your roommate means date by hanging out together doing fun things, then go for it. If she meant it in like a threeway relationship, then I'll tell you to think about the pros and cons, not just for the reasons that you're lonely or on impulse.

You might have to share each other and it takes a lot to make something like this work. It could end up good but then it can also end up badly with hurt feelings and such. If you're uncomfortable about it or there's no attraction, then maybe you could just turn them down gently.

But it's entire up to you and the decision you'll make.

Edited 2010-09-18 03:12 pm (UTC)
[identity profile] lumati.livejournal.com on September 18th, 2010 03:42 pm (UTC)
I think Carl's wording was something along the lines of "I think we should spend some time together and go on a date sometime." more or less. I was tired then and I'm tired now so getting an exact quote or something even close to it would be impossible.

Ugh. Could not do a threeway. Sometimes it's all I can do to remember why I'm Hillary's friend let alone anything else. XD; I'm all for poly and totally get how that sort of thing works, but just... yeah that's not gonna happen here.

Turning people down period is something I fail at though, which is part of the issue.
[identity profile] carameltrap.livejournal.com on September 19th, 2010 04:07 am (UTC)
A threeway will only work if all three parties consent and are agreeable to it and there is the mutual attraction for all three. From your comment above about your roommate being jealous easily, that is not going to end well. They may have suggested it on a whim but when it turns serious, I doubt she's that willing to share and as I said, it could end badly, not for them but for you.

Tell them thanks but no thanks or just say you'll think about it.